Parenting Adult Children

Parents we are not raising children we are raising adults sometimes once the children become adults we act as though they are children. Each age brings on a different stage, and when your children get older your parenting style will have to change. Why because they are adults not children? I am a firm believer that children and parents should be respected highly. Parents yes of course you remember when they were born you were there pushing and pressing that beautiful human being in the world. Once you have done your job as a good parent for 18 years, trust them. They heard what you said and believe in them after all they are a part of you, or in the back of your mind are you afraid of that, OH NO please don’t act like me. Your children are not you, they have there own identity, ways, personalities, character, thinking abilities, gifts & talents and it may not be nothing like yours. Love them, support them, and believe in them. It is amazing how adult children are more sensitive with age and they want acceptance at the ages of 18, 25, 30, 48 yes in there 50’s also.

It is important to be kind to your children remember you rolled them around in a stroller when they were babies, and they may roll you in a wheelchair or walk alongside of your in a scooter later. Plant the seed of kind words, tell them you love them, exercise together, and go to the movies together. Talk to your children once they are adults many things should change, for instant the tone of your voice, your attitude. Some parents make it clear quite often,” I am the parent I brought you in this world and I will take you out.” They know you are the parent just walk in your Godly calling and be a role model not a police officer. Yelling at your children when they were a child is the same when they become an adult they will shut you out much quicker and they may stay away.

You need your adult children, one of saddest things I have witness was a mother of 6 girls she was so mean to her daughters growing up when she passed away not one of her daughters attended the funeral her sisters and brother made the final arrangements. That said a lot, embrace your adult children, and talk to them with care and love on them. Allow them to fly don’t clip there wings with harsh word and bossy ways, let them fly like an eagle and let them run this race of life and not faint for goodness and mercy shall follow them all the days of there life because you set a wonderful legacy of love, peace & patience.

Fathers Rocks

Happy New Year to all the good fathers, we often talk about mothers as we should but I am taking the time to recognize the fathers. There are some good fathers who are putting in there time 100% and I so proud of all of you. I watch the fathers quite often. Where I work there’s a men program and to see the group and cohesiveness is admirable. I watch the fathers at church and they are hands on taking care of their children. Then on a personal note I see my son Mr. Al Hardy, who is one of the Best Dad I ever seen. He connect, share, talk to the children, give them illustrations and most of all he has patience. Sometimes I wonder if the families and that’s everyone who is related to the children are aware of this. So many times good people go unnoticed and taking for granted and the dead beat dad gets so much attention.

I just want to give a shot out to all the active, hardworking, loving Good Fathers all over the world, if no one has told you I want to say Thank You. As a Counselor I Thank You.
You are creating stability, strength & power in the child’s life. This helps ground them with foundational love from a man. To all the Fathers who are involved in your child’s life HAPPY 2012, there are 12 months in a year & 12 disciples in the bible. So I say to you use the 12 month to be in your child’s life show up daily, and discipline conditioning yourself for you are the unspoken hero.

Father’s Rock