Parents we are not raising children we are raising adults sometimes once the children become adults we act as though they are children. Each age brings on a different stage, and when your children get older your parenting style will have to change. Why because they are adults not children? I am a firm believer that children and parents should be respected highly. Parents yes of course you remember when they were born you were there pushing and pressing that beautiful human being in the world. Once you have done your job as a good parent for 18 years, trust them. They heard what you said and believe in them after all they are a part of you, or in the back of your mind are you afraid of that, OH NO please don’t act like me. Your children are not you, they have there own identity, ways, personalities, character, thinking abilities, gifts & talents and it may not be nothing like yours. Love them, support them, and believe in them. It is amazing how adult children are more sensitive with age and they want acceptance at the ages of 18, 25, 30, 48 yes in there 50’s also.
It is important to be kind to your children remember you rolled them around in a stroller when they were babies, and they may roll you in a wheelchair or walk alongside of your in a scooter later. Plant the seed of kind words, tell them you love them, exercise together, and go to the movies together. Talk to your children once they are adults many things should change, for instant the tone of your voice, your attitude. Some parents make it clear quite often,” I am the parent I brought you in this world and I will take you out.” They know you are the parent just walk in your Godly calling and be a role model not a police officer. Yelling at your children when they were a child is the same when they become an adult they will shut you out much quicker and they may stay away.
You need your adult children, one of saddest things I have witness was a mother of 6 girls she was so mean to her daughters growing up when she passed away not one of her daughters attended the funeral her sisters and brother made the final arrangements. That said a lot, embrace your adult children, and talk to them with care and love on them. Allow them to fly don’t clip there wings with harsh word and bossy ways, let them fly like an eagle and let them run this race of life and not faint for goodness and mercy shall follow them all the days of there life because you set a wonderful legacy of love, peace & patience.
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